Getting to know Juliet.....
Juliet Allen is a world-class Sexologist, Coach, Tantra Practitioner and host of the Authentic Sex podcast. With a reputation for her bold and straight-to-the-point manner, Juliet is the woman you turn to when you when you want to learn more about all things sexuality, if you desire great sex every day, or just feel like your sex life could do with a helping hand. What we love most about Juliet is that she holds space to truly explore our sexuality and power, all with a beautifully warm, modern, no BS approach.
Juliet facilitates 1:1 coaching sessions, educative workshops, and transformative online courses. Juliet’s purpose is to empower men and women to embrace their sexuality & transform their sex and relationships.
Today we are lucky enough to get to know a little bit more about Juliet outside of her work. We discuss life, love and boobs, including her own longstanding breast self-care practise, and what's coming up next for Juliet. We think you'll really love what she has to say....so let's dive in!!
Where do you call home? What do you love about living there?
Home is in Kingscliff, Northern NSW. I live here with my partner, Nicholas and my beautiful daughter who is 13 years old. Our home is cosy, minimal and quiet - there’s plenty of native birds singing all day long and we live close to the beach and the creek. Many hours are spent swimming and laying in the sun, that’s what I love most about our home, that we are close to so many beautiful nature spots! I also love that it’s really private, so I can wander about our house naked all day long.
Tell us about your ideal day situation!
Ideal day, great question. Wake up, roll over and make love. Cuddle for a long time afterward. Make a delicious cacao elixir and sip it out on the balcony. Head to the beach, sit in the sun, have a swim. Cook up a delicious, nutritious brekky. Make love again. Pilates (I’m loving pilates at the moment!). Do something creative - can be work related, ‘cos I love my work! Enjoy laying on the balcony in the afternoon (yes, I love my sunshine). Eat a yummy evening meal with my family. Watch a movie cuddled up with Nicholas. Another ideal day would be camping in our van somewhere really secluded and doing all of the above, but living the simple life out of the van and doing absolutely nothing all day long. I really love simple stuff in life.
First thing you did this morning?
Cuddled Nick for a long, long time in bed. Made a cacao, took it to the beach, watched the waves and swam in the ocean.
I’m currently working on….
Launching a brand new online platform later this year … it will make my work and workshops available to people globally … I’m so excited!
“One thing that might surprise people about me is…..”
Oh you’ve got me stuck on this one. Ummmmm … I love to watch trashy reality TV every now and then!
What is your go-to breakfast?
Scrambled eggs, grain-free toast, greens, herbs and avo. I have that most days and am a creature of habit when it comes to brekky. I love a big brekky, fuels me up for the rest of the day!
Current fave podcast/book?
Fave podcast right now - ‘Online Marketing Made Easy’ with Amy Porterfield. This podcast helps me with online marketing ideas for my business.
Fave book right now - Spirit Babies by Walter Makichen (a great one for anyone with kids or anyone wanting to have kids … also great for anyone who has experienced a miscarriage/lost a child).
What makes your heart skip a beat?
Thinking about marrying Nicholas one day - so corny!! And I never thought I would say that about anyone!! Up till recently I’ve been a total commitment phobe. But I finally get how exciting it can feel to dream into marriage with someone.Even when I mention it t him I get all teary!
Self-care has become a buzz word of late. What does it mean for you?
It means having time to do nothing throughout the week. Literally waking up without a plan on a Monday and going with the flow. Spending time solo, of course! It means a bath at the end of each day by myself, a breast massage (not saying this because it’s you guys who are interviewing me, this is the real deal! I massage oil into my breasts daily and have been for years). It means facials, acupuncture … time away from work. It also means regular support with my mentor/therapist.
How do your breasts form part of your self-care routine, if at all?
As mentioned above, daily breast massage with delicious oils.
Two words to describe your boobs.
A perky, delicious handful (sorry, two words is too little!)
What do you think of when you hear the term ‘breast wellness’?
Looking after our precious HEART! Our breasts are an extension of our hearts - I feel breast wellness means that we express our heart’s desires, and follow beautiful heart connections that we have with others. And grieve when we need to, and cry when we need to … fully feeling our pain, as well as our joy. I think the best way we can honour our heart is by choosing lovers and friends who honour our heart, too. Like I said, our breasts are an extension of our heart.
As a sexologist, coach and tantra practitioner, you’re constantly helping to empower men and women to embrace their sexuality and transform their intimate relationships. What about a woman’s own intimacy with her breasts? From your experience, do you think women tend to be disconnected from their boobs & why do you think this might be the case?
I think we live in a culture that doesn’t place much emphasis on how important it is for us to connect with our breasts. How many of us encourage our daughters to massage their breasts as a young girl? Not many! So we grow up just ‘having breasts’. They become a sexual part of our body, or we use them to breastfeed our child, but not many women nurture their breasts with tender, loving care. Thank god for Nuni, making a change and bringing breast specific massage oil to our bedside tables!
You’ve spoken before about there being a lack of sexuality education for young people, something we’d like to see improve too, including a whole lot more positive boob talk! Do you recall being educated about breast wellness / awareness when you were growing up? By whom?
Nope, I wasn’t educated about that at all. I mean I was lucky, ‘cos my Mum always ate brekky in the nude, so boobs were a normal part of my every day life … it was no big deal to eat brekky looking at Mum’s boobs! But no one ever spoke to me about the importance of breast care.
The name Nüni is a direct reference to the slang name ‘noonies’, which is what Nuni’s founder Dayle’s family referred to breasts as during her childhood. What did you call them?
Good question, I think we called them boobs when I was a kid!
There’s currently no evidence to support the use of mammograms in women under 40. Given that the only method of early detection of breast cancer for women is through breast awareness, what do you think can be done to encourage women to get to know their boobs better now, rather than putting it off until they reach screening age of 50?
I think we could make breast awareness a part of the school education system! And create awesome workshops for teenage girls where they have the opportunity to learn about breast care and loving and embracing their breasts, no matter what shape or size they are. I also think it would be awesome for young men to learn about this, too. Then they can nurture and love the breasts of their future lovers and partners.
For those of us who might tend to ignore our boobs, can you give us a couple of practical tips for helping us love and embrace our girls on a more regular basis?
Take time out to do a daily breast massage in the mirror. Use some oil and rub it all over, sending love to your breasts through your hands and saying positive affirmations to them. Our breasts are so beautiful! And they feed our babies with delicious liquid gold, what a miracle they are!
Amen! Thank you Juliet, I could listen to your podcast all day long, and reading your words has been just as enjoyable. Thanks for sharing your life with us, and for providing such a heartfelt perspective on breast wellness to our community.